I haven’t seen my husband in a month. He’s been around here and there, but for the most part, we are like separate entities, ships in the night, waving at each other from afar.
I can practically hear the echo.
Let me give you the rundown of a grad student’s schedule:
- March 13: Spring break starts. “Yay!” you might say. “NO!!!!” Says the grad student. This triggers the massive push to complete dissertation. He has 3 weeks to complete it.
- March 14: Skype interview
- March 16-19: Math conference.
- (And when he returns, he is greeted by family friends visiting from out of state. Less time for him to get work done, but hopefully he gets to relax a bit.)
- March 20-24: Colleague from another college is visiting.
- March 24: Skype interview
- March 24-27: I am gone for a work conference.
- March 28: Skype interview
- March 29-30: Math talk at Princeton
- March 31: Skype interview
- April 3: Birthday!!!! He said “I’m too busy, let’s ignore my birthday until after I graduate.”
- April 4: Skype interview
- April 6: Turn in dissertation
- April 6-13: Germany
- April 14: Skype interview
- April 16-18: On-campus interview
- April 18-19: On-campus interview
- April 20: Defense
- April 20-24: Friend visits from out of state.
It is Done
Josh officially submitted his dissertation and passed his defense, he has a PhD. He can graduate. He is a doctor, just not the useful kind (as I like to joke).
We’ve survived a crazy season and we can take a deep breath, but only for a moment. We just need to gather enough air to swim to the same boat so we can be together, journey on, and decide where we’re going next. Sometimes I think this is a little bit crazy.
“What are you doing this summer?”
“Oh, where are you going?”
“We don’t know yet.”
We get a lot of looks. But there’s not a lot we can do about it right now anyway, and it’s not really our decision to make. Whatever we decide, whatever God decides for us, we will do together, waving at the passersby as we drive to our new destination.